What’s the sign that you’re truly happy?
What’s that feeling you get that tells you that all is exactly as it should be?
How do you know that something or someone is right for you?
For me, it was a bit of a surprise to discover it was a feeling of PEACE.
Times I’ve Felt Peaceful Include:
♧ When I left London for Madrid and then the mountains;
♧ When I left law for life coaching;
♧ When I write.
What Causes Calm?
Living life in accordance with your values – those things which make you tick – your internal drivers – your silent anchors which, when honoured and engaged, make you feel alive and at peace.
What Causes Niggling Unease?
If you’re feeling out of sorts at the moment – like you’re not quite where you’re meant to be – not doing a job you enjoy – not spending time with the right people – or not living in the right place – that’s likely because you’re not living your life in accordance with your values.
Maybe that’s because you feel too busy to take time out, too overwhelmed to think straight or maybe you’ve simply never sat down and worked out what really makes you tick.
The great news is, that feeling of unease is easy to resolve if you take a step back and spend ten minutes working out your values.
How To Recapture Your Va-Va-Voom
Tap into the real you by formulating a list of your 8-10 core drivers – the things which give you purpose – by asking yourself:
♧ What am I doing when I’m happiest?
♧ What couldn’t I do without in my life?
♧ What would my ideal day involve?
♧ If I had all the money in the world, what would I be doing?
♧ If time was no object, where would you find me?
Your list may include words like:
It’s totally personal.
Now put those words in order of priority.
Once you’ve done that you should be able to spot the cause of your unease.
Which one of those values isn’t being met at the moment? If it’s a value near the top of your list, chances are you’re feeling all kinds of funny.
Don’t Believe Me?
You can test your values by looking back at times in your life when you felt unlike yourself – whether an ill-fitting relationship or an unfulfilling job. Review your values list against each scenario and I’ll bet you can identify which need wasn’t being met and why you felt so strange. Bear in mind, though, that your values evolve over time so what may have mattered to you ten years ago may hold less significance now.
The Magic Bullet
Savour how much more confident you feel making a #change now you understand why you feel the way you do.