If It Could Happen to James, It Could Happen to Any Man: What We Can Learn From The Worst Kind of Tragedy

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“I wish that people could understand that the brain is the most important organ in your body. Just because you can’t see it like you could a broken bone doesn’t mean it’s not as detrimental + devastating to a family or an individual”

Demi Lovato

Episode 5 of The School of Success Podcast Series is one of the most powerful and moving conversations I’ve ever had. This inspiring interview with Clare Milford-Haven, aristocrat, ex-Tatler journalist, polo player + co-founder of @jamesplaceuk, gives deeply personal insight into the tragic loss of her beautiful son, James, to suicide.

In this episode, Clare explains:
– what triggers depression + suicidal crisis;
– what type of person feels suicidal;
– why men are particularly vulnerable;
– signs + symptoms of mental illness;
– how James’ Place helps support suicidal men +
– why those most at risk may be the last people you expect

This is for you if you have an interest in what it is to be human – happiness, sadness, chance, adversity + everything in between. It’s also for you if you have men in your life you care deeply for whether father, brother, son, friend, boyfriend, husband or otherwise.

This powerful tale of the Harrow educated, polo playing, life + soul of the party, James, bears poignant testimony to the complexity of happiness + the fragility of mental health, no matter how fortunate you are.

If it could happen to James, it could happen to anyone.

Click on this link to listen. You might just save a life 💙

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The Simple Success Hack That May Surprise You

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“Attention energises, intention transforms”

Deepak Chopra 

 

Ever wondered why you’re unable to make change despite feeling frustration, boredom, anxiety or depression about your current life?

Here’s why 🤫

To make any big change in your life, you need to do more than recognise discomfort – you need to create the time, space and resources to get real clarity. From there, change becomes easy.

Ever wondered why people telling you what you should do rarely works? Because sometimes it comes more from a place of projection, protectiveness and bias than objectivity and real listening – truly sitting in the moment with you and really hearing what lies beneath is usually quite different, leaving you feeling heard, understood and pumped to uplevel your life.

This is exactly what I thought coaching wasn’t when I first started out. Honestly, I was hoping it was a quick fix involving talking to a wise owl who could help me cut corners and expedite change fast.

I couldn’t have been more wrong.

When I heard it was being guided by the coach asking a series of questions to help me work out who I was and what I wanted, I thought it sounded like hot air.

Then we started practising coaching – and I ate my words fast 🤭

I quickly realised helping someone connect to who they truly are and what they truly want versus telling them what they should do, is where the magic happens.

I see this kind of magic happen daily with clients – whether midwives moving into project management, financiers moving into consulting, lawyers moving into coaching or graduates moving into advertising and beyond.

It’s not rocket science, but boy does it work.

As a wise friend on Mindline once said, really active listening is like developing a sixth sense.

So I say again – attention energises, intention transforms. Finding space to be truly heard and to deconstruct what’s really going on for you is an essential component to creating the intention required for change.

So if you’re feeling misaligned with your life or career, what’s stopping you?

And if you’re still feeling stuck, remember, nothing changes if nothing changes 💫

Why My Brother’s Death at 23 Taught Me That Courage is the Most High-Performance Habit of the Lot

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“Courage is the complement of fear. A man who is fearless cannot be courageous”

Robert A Heinlein

 

I have a confession.

 

While many of us have felt it, I sometimes struggle with people who doggedly refuse to move from victim mindset + are unwilling to do anything differently. Obviously, mental illness can keep us there, which is truly hard.

 

I recognise I may be a bit intolerant having seen my 22 year old brother choose courage at the worst of times – untimely death.

Nobody Googles ‘Glioblastoma’ + comes away feeling hopeful. Ironic the ‘my brother died of a brain tumour’ line is a conversation stopper because his defiance in the face of adversity made it hard for us to view him as anything but inspiring, radically altering the course of my life for the better.

 

Courage is a powerful thing – especially when the stats tell you you’re f*cked + hope, for all intents + purposes, is lost.

 

But that’s the magical thing about courage.

 

It’s truly metaphysical, uniting improbable points of likeness like strength in suffering, bravery in hopelessness + humour in adversity, in the most breathtaking ways.

 

It finds hope in the hopeless, inspiring life’s Greats to do their highest work on Earth – the most inspiring of whom usually have real reason to be victims – the Nelson Mandela’s of Apartheid, The Viktor Frankel’s of the Holocaust + the Martin Luther King’s.

 

A few days’ before my brother’s death, he wrote my sister + I a letter oozing a courage that blew my mind: ‘Obviously I’m a bit narked because I thought we could win, so now we have to reassess winning + how we define that’.

 

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That’s the thing about courage – it takes your breath away – because it’s grit + defiance that flies in the face of fear –

+ you never really know it’s there until the sh*t hits the fan.

 

In truth, Matthew had always been a bit special, with an understated charm + charisma that lit up rooms – but none of us were prepared for how he made suffering his crowning glory.

 

Even in his darkest hour, he found the courage to reframe the hopelessness of tragedy: ‘Cancer need not be the epilogue, in many ways it can be the introduction to a richer life of wisdom’.

 

Towards the end of his letter to his little sisters, my twin + I, he wrote: ‘So we need to have a lot of fun (underlined) over the next few months or so’ (before signing off with an Austin Powers quote).

 

I’m privileged to see courage daily in my career + life coaching clients – who are, by definition, deeply courageous, seeking the magic hidden in stress. They inspire me daily.

 

So when life feels impossible, remember, courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s defiance over fear. As Maslow says: ‘One can choose to go back toward safety or forward toward growth. Growth must be chosen again + again; fear must be overcome again + again’.

 

So when you wobble, remember, there is purpose in pain. As Freud said:

 

‘Pain has nothing to teach those who don’t find the courage + strength to listen to it’.

From Lawyer to Life Coach: My Story & Why if I could do it, you can, too!

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‘The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle’ – Steve Jobs

The moment I realised I wanted to leave law, I was sitting in the car park at work on Sunday for the nth time, stifling tears of fatigue and frustration.

The moment I realised coaching could be the ideal fit work-wise was sitting a-top a double decker bus in London, reading an article on coaching, having that soulmate feeling you get when you know you may have hit the jackpot.

For the rest of my story, check out my short no-holds-barred video below explaining my move from lawyer to life and career coach and corporate trainer.

In it, I address:

💡 the dealbreakers that helped me realise law wasn’t for me;
💡 what helped me get clarity on career change;
💡 why working with coaching clients met my needs more than supporting people through divorce;
💡 why ‘net income’ is so important and why ‘income’ is a deceptive notion;
💡 why owning my own business was attractive instead of scary; and
💡 why knowing my superpowers was a real guiding light in my career change

If you’re unhappy or even just discontent in your career, know that if I can do it, you can, too.

You don’t have to see the whole staircase to make change, you just need to trust your instinct and take the first step.

Don’t know if coaching or career change may even be the right thing for you?

Take comfort from Bob Nardelli’s words, former CEO of Home Depot which has a $353 billion market capitalisation today: “I absolutely believe that people, unless coached, never reach their maximum potential”.

Unsure if you can change paths and keep the salary you want?

Most of my new clients feel the same but quickly shift state from fear and doubt to excitement and hope, like Vanessa, another lawyer, below:

“I was referred to Mel at a point when my I felt trapped in a frustrating role and working environment. Mel proved to be a lifeline and a joy to work with as she: got me to articulate what really matters to me in my working life; has turned my frustrations into inspirations; and always ended each session with a practical ‘to do’ list. Mel’s sessions have not only allowed me to focus my thought processes on what I want and need from my career but also helped me work out a practical approach for pushing my current career in the direction I want it to go. Each session left me feeling energised and positive. I could not recommend her enough”.

Remember, our time on Earth is short.

As Steve Jobs said: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life”.

To watch my story click here.

And if you’d like to hear more, get in touch for a free 30 minute life or career coaching discovery call and let’s see if we could be a good fit – www.melanie-pritchard.com

3 Ways to Sex-Up A Cover Letter!

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“Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and I’m yours forever” – MD Waters

Can you guess the link between dating and careers?

I see average cover letters again and again. Just like attracting a crème de la crème mate, we need to up our game massively to attract top employers, stand out from the crowd and secure the top jobs.

This means hardcore seduction.

I’m talking KC level, evidence based seduction that wins High Court cases.

There should be nothing average about it.

If it’s not breath-taking, don’t send it.

It you know it’s not a 10 out of 10, keep drafting.

If you don’t know how, drop me a line.

Corporate seduction is my superpower!

Like anything in life, it’s easy when you have the magic formula.

To find out how I can help you uplevel your life or career, book a free discovery call here

Still unsure? Here’s what a recent client, Tina LePomme said: ‘‘I worked with Mel in 2022. She helped me redefine my career, think about my key priorities and supported me throughout the entire process all the way until I found the dream job. She is absolutely amazing, she’s incredibly resourceful, will go above and beyond to support you in any way she can and is very professional. I cannot recommend her enough”

LA Weekly: 10 Career Coaches to Follow in 2023

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Whether your career is in its infancy or you’re ready to change paths, working with a passionate and expert career coach can make a big difference. Career development can be quite daunting and everyone can benefit from the guidance and support career coaches are meant to provide.

If you need help exploring careers paths, setting and achieving career goals, developing your skills, and finding new and better jobs, among many other things, working with a career coach will make things a lot easier. They have years of experience and a wealth of knowledge under their belt, it’s just a matter of finding the right fit for you.

Browse our list below to find the top 10 career coaches in 2023!

Why Management Consulting Can Feel like a Toxic Relationship

‘Management consulting is like a toxic relationship – you love the salary, status and perks, but you hate the intense workload, demanding clients, lack of work life balance and lack of praise’ – Career Coaching Consulting Client

Are you a management consultant, lawyer or professional who loves the highs of the job – the big pay check, the nice house and the social status but secretly hates the feeling of being stuck in the ‘corporate cage’ where you crave changing out of the ‘always on’ culture but love the big salary and feel trapped by a big mortgage and other liabilities?

Or maybe you’ve reached the pinnacle of your career, near Partnership, only to realise that all your efforts seem to count for nothing unless you hit whopping billable targets or you’re able to bring in new business.

Or maybe you simply don’t have the time to explore these niggling feelings and doubts – or you don’t know who you could talk to to discover alternatives that meet your wider needs?

Perhaps you’ve normalised feeling flat, frustrated or unfulfilled for so long that you’ve failed to notice the negative ripple effect your work is having on your mental health and your wider quality of life with family and friends?

Can you even imagine what it feels like not to have to be perfect every day at work, like you’re on a never-ending treadmill constantly fending off burn-out?

I get it – as a lawyer turned Career and Life Coach, I help smart, successful professionals working in high stress worlds design careers and lives they love – and much as your monkey mind may tell you this isn’t possible, I’m here to tell you it is!

Whether learning simple mindset mastery tricks to help reduce stress and optimise work life balance, learning how to develop boundaries and people please less, exploring career alternatives that thrive off your superb CV or managing wider life goals like love and relationships, I’m here for you.

It’s easy to boost hope and joy in life when you have the right tools and the space to explore what you really want, what your options are and how to reconnect with your strengths to strategise for change. It doesn’t have to be money or happiness – it can be both.

Check out a powerful example of one of many bright but frustrated career coaching clients I work with in the in the short video here.

What do you relate to?

What are your main pain-points?

And how committed to change are you in 2023?

If you’d like to explore how I can help you master your mind and re-design your career or personal life, drop me a message here for a free discovery call. Helping smart, successful professionals get unstuck fast is my superpower 🙂

Here’s what a recent legal client said:

‘Thank you so much for everything – I feel like you’re the best investment I made in myself in years. I feel much more connected to my true self and have more trust in myself than I have had in a long time. You have a real gift’

How to Unearth the Hidden Job Market and Find Work you Love!

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‘My best interactions to secure this new career were through speculative approaches’ – Buzzing Client!

I just came off a call with an overjoyed management consulting career coaching client who came to coaching feeling overwhelmed, confused and unsure about how she could find a new career she loved. She lacked confidence and worried it wasn’t possible to maintain her pay and find happiness through career change. She has since secured her dream career in a new industry and new role she’d previously doubted was possible, combining her interests in law and tech to great effect (throw in Mondays off to work from home with her children and a higher salary, too!)

She did this through an unusual route, which, done well, can secure you the job of your dreams in ways your inner saboteur may try to quash!

It’s one of the most high-results producing methods I share with disillusioned career coaching clients who want to find work they love in cultures that truly align.

Watch my short video here for the insider scoop and reach out if you’d like the secret formula!

Disclaimer: don’t do this if you’re not prepared for massive career fulfilment!

If you’d like to learn more about how to get career clarity fast to find work you love, contact me for a free discovery call here!

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How Radical A Career Change is Possible with Career Coaching?

10 Signs You May Be Ready for a Career Change

‘Choose a job you love and you’ll never work a day in your life’ – Confucius

🤫 Bored by your career?
🤫 Lack interest in the subject matter?
🤫 Hate the place you work?
🤫 Secretly long to change paths but don’t know how, into what or if you can maintain your earnings?

So many of my clients have many of these doubts and sooo much more.

Happily, working with hundreds of clients across all industries has confirmed successful career change is ABSOLUTELY possible – sometimes in radically different directions as explained above!

Infact, making ‘major’ changes become so much easier when you get clear on who you are and what you need to be happy. One way we do this in my 360 Career Change Programme is by examining:

🍋 Your passions and interests
🍋 Your strengths and superpowers
🍋 Your values (what gives your life meaning)
🍋 Your purpose

Sound hard? It’s easy with the right support, it really is.

Unknotting confusion is my superpower which is why anxiety starts to fall away from the moment we start coaching together – instead, hope, excitement and momentum abound!

That’s the simple power of coaching – it gets you out of the lonely silo of your circular mind and zooms in on the truth – what energises you and what direction you yearn to follow to find the deep happiness and success my clients long for.

If you’re wandering what sort of clients I work with and what sort of industries they start in and move to, here’s a sneak peek in this short video.

If I sound confident about your ability to change paths, it’s because my clients do this again and again. I’m talking 99%!

Like anything, it’s easy when you know how and have a structure.

To hear more about how I can support your next steps towards the career and life of your dreams, email me ‘bring it on!’ here. I have space for two new clients in the next 6 weeks and offer an early bird discount for the super keen! Think fun, clarifying conversations with tangible results which hit bullseye.

To quote one lovely client: ‘Coaching with Mel was the best investment I’ve ever made’. You can check out more Google Reviews from past clients who have moved from career confusion to successful 360 career change here!

What’s stopping you?

5 Top Tips for Becoming a Life Coach: What I Wish I’d Known Earlier

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Coaching offers the secrets to happiness most of my career and life coaching clients dream of: freedom, work life balance, creativity and the ability to be an entrepreneur and run your own business on your own terms. What’s not to love?!

Having coached and mentored many career coaching and life coaching clients keen to switch careers into coaching, here are some top tips most coaches to be are unaware of:

1. Choose the Right Coaching Course

Any course you spend money on should be seen as an investment rather than an expense. A high value course should be measured for the return on investment it provides versus the cost. The coaching course I did worked well for me because it offered the flexibility of online study and was well reputed because it markets itself extremely well with free weekend taster courses – but great marketing doesn’t equal great quality. I’ve since met many coaches and can clearly see some stand-out courses which cost a lot more money but which yield notably excellent returns in terms of skills, business tips and certification. So take the time to connect with well-established coaches with wide networks and ask them which coaching schools they’d recommend based on the coaches they’ve met. The right investment will pay dividends in terms of building your confidence, skills and future business.

2. Marketing is King

As I always say, a great coach without marketing is like a chateau without road signs. It doesn’t matter how gifted you are if people can’t find you. My personal path involved undertaking my coaching training and developing my coaching skills through a lot of free sessions, gathering client testimonials so I could build my future brand (website and blog) and writing articles on areas of interest around happiness, success and personal development. The truth is, this was an easy win as writing sets my heart a-flutter and sharing learnings from books I was reading and my own new experiences living in wonderful new places on paths less travelled, was an easy way to energise myself, consolidate key pearls of wisdom and build my profile as a personal development specialist. Much later, I turned my attention to marketing, such as writing articles for publications such as the Huffington Post, investing in PR, exploring search engine optimisation and creating a podcast to get more traffic to my website. Marketing is like a game — you’ve got to play the game if you want to create enough chemistry calls to make a living. For while coaching may meet those much sought after values such as freedom and work life balance, this isn’t much fun if you’re not earning enough money to make a living. With great testimonials and enough client enquiries, you can increase your prices and be sure to make what you need and more every month with the kind of freedom, stability and growth that, well, sets you free!

3. Work for Coaching Companies as a Freelance Coach

Once you’ve got enough coaching hours and great testimonials under your belt, it shouldn’t be too hard to secure freelance coaching as an associate coach. This is a really high results producing activity as it ensures you get clients funnelled to you without any marketing costs your end. The other major benefit is the business acumen you acquire from seeing how other coaching businesses operate. If you’d told me when I started coaching that I could easily sell 9 session career coaching packages to clients, I never would’ve believed you. I would’ve also found it hard to believe that I could even make £300 a month from coaching! Working for more established coaching companies has proven otherwise, teaching me powerful tools around effective marketing, how to conduct powerful chemistry calls to convert potential clients whilst boosting my confidence though coaching hundreds of clients across different industries and at different levels from undergraduates to trainees, associates, managers and CEOs.

4. Play to your Passions

Although people often speak about the importance of having a niche, I advise new coaches to start broad unless you’re sure what direction you want to take. If you know you’re nuts about nutrition and want to go hammer and tongs to train as a nutrition or health coach, go for it, as passion sells. But if you’re unsure, don’t corner yourself too soon. Instead, enjoy experimenting by working with a range of clients and getting curious about what you most enjoy. I worked with a real mix of people and noticed that career coaching clients naturally gravitated towards me because of my own career coaching journey from lawyer to life and career coach. I also realised that having worked across a range of fields from property and law to PR, journalism, copywriting, higher education and start-ups gave me unique insight into a range of careers that could benefit clients across a real breadth of diverse career sectors. I also realised that my journalism experience and First Class degree in English were superpowers other coaches may not have, helping clients with key pain points whether nailing CV’s, applications, cover letters and interviews to secure the jobs of their dreams. What are your unique strengths, experiences, passions and selling points? And how might these support the area of coaching that you could work in?

5. Carve out a Unique Selling Point

While coaching sounds like the killer career in terms of work life balance, freedom and making a difference, this also means it attracts a lot of people who want a piece of the cake. To ensure you stand out from the crowd, think about what your unique selling points are and how they can bolster your brand identity and origin tale. For instance, as a lawyer turned life coach, I have a unique selling point as a coach who has successfully traversed career change — particularly from the high stress, ‘always-on’ corporate world, to a more freedom filled, values-driven, coaching lifestyle. This story resonates well with professionals like lawyers and management consultants who can be a little snobby about who they work with. My creative strengths as a writer have meant that I leant into creating my own blog and writing on subjects that inspired my own personal development from how to take the stress out of online dating, to top tips for moving abroad (think London to Madrid and the French Alps), to how to master your mind and transform your life and career. My strengths as a writer separate me from other coaches and have helped me gain PR opportunities with publications like Grazia, The Financial Times, Huffington Post, Refinery29, Elephant Journal and Refinery29; this has paid dividends in boosting my gravitas as a commercial creative hybrid who specialises in helping a range of professionals who are confused about their careers find work they love!

What comes to mind when you ask yourself the above questions? Feel free to drop me your thoughts or queries here.

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